Putting It All Together

Managing a close relationship is one of the most difficult things you can do. Intimate relationships bring joy, happiness, and meaning to our lives, but they are also full of contradictions and potential heartache. Understanding how this paradox works can help alleviate feelings of uncertainty and confusion. Knowing about the Paradox of Intimacy also highlights the importance of identifying your expectations, honoring your emotions, focusing on your goals, and adopting a constructive approach when relational problems come to light.


  • Intimacy creates tremendous rewards in a romantic relationship.
  • Intimacy also places many constraints on each partner.
  • The Paradox of Intimacy occasionally leads people to betray or deceive a partner.
  • When dealing with an intimate betrayal, it’s important to identify your expectations, honor your emotions, reflect on the big picture, and try to address the issue constructively.

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