Hi zoomom just wanted to say I know what you are going through – my husband is heavily in denial while also being permanently attached to his phone which he hides the screen of every time I walk by. He even gets up in the night 2am and 4 am to send the other woman text messages even though he has never been a night owl and needs his sleep. He is emotionally withdrawn from me and my daughter but expects me to act like everything is normal though I fear it never will be again. He uses any excuse to run errands so he can phone her and usually takes a lot longer than is warranted as a result but gets violently angry if I ask him why it took so long. I feel like its a living nightmare that I never dreamed would happen to us.