How do you help someone from keep dwelling in the past even if you have acknowledged their feelings, shared, etc. Sometimes any disagreement becomes about other issues that both have supposedly accepted. Backsliding is normal and to be expected; however, how much and how frequent should there be backsliding. We need help moving forward – permanently or most of the time. What are your suggestions? Revisiting the past 50 + times, going through the process are at least most of it should set the ground for forward motion. Many rlshp experts state argue or disagree on the current issue. Bringing up the past or the many times you disagree with a mannerism, etc. especially when contempt and criticism are applied are the kisses of death. Please help.