Triggering events are common and can take a betrayed spouse to a place of despair. In such moments, it’s helpful to be responsive to your spouse’s needs. If they want to vent, listen. If they ask questions, give answers. If they need space, provide it. The key is to be responsive to what your spouse needs at the moment — doing so demonstrates love and concern. Do your best to resist trying to fix the problem as you think it should be handled. In the moment, give your spouse what they need and then have the discussion you think might be helpful after some time has passed.