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Tim Cole

Hi Tan,

When people feel betrayed, it’s important to acknowledge your spouse’s feelings and take ownership for your actions. It helps to resist the temptation to explain your side of the story — at least until your husband truly knows you understand where he is coming from. People have intense emotional reactions when they don’t feel understood. If you can take the time to validate his perspective, rather than explain your side of the story, it may help. Your husband will probably be more open to listening to your perspective after he’s certain that you understand his feelings. Listen to him and don’t immediately rush to explain your actions. If you make him feel understood, he’ll most likely ask for an explanation and listen to your point of view.