My husband came home with lipstick marks all over his breast, when I confronted him, he said that he actually went to see someone but I demanded to know the person but he refused to tell me and said he will handle it.
Out of annoyance, I left the house and stayed in a hotel for two days. When I came home, he moved my things from our room to the children’s room. This is not the first time he has cheated on me. He told me that he did not have sex with the person in question.
I’m confused right now and I don’t know what to do. Your advice is desperately needed, please.
To begin with, take some time to focus on what it is you want. What are your goals and objectives? Do you want to know the truth? Do you want your husband to treat you with respect? Do you want your husband to be faithful? Or are you willing to stay with him no matter what? Take some time to write down exactly what you want and what you’re willing to put up with.
Once you’ve taken the time to identify your goals, talk to your husband about how you’re feeling. These conversations work best when you focus on how you’re feeling and not what your husband did. Tell your husband that your frustrated, scared, disappointed, concerned or whatever it is that your feeling.
Also tell your husband what you expect from him. Tell him that you expect to be told the truth, treated with respect, or that you expect him to work with you to resolve this problem.
In the best-case scenario, your husband will take your concerns into account and the two of you can work together to address these issues. However, if your husband refuses to acknowledge your feelings and concerns, then you have some difficult decisions to make.
We provide more detailed advice for dealing with these types of problems in our book, Broken Trust.